Severe Arm Pain, Severe Headache, Scary Feeling

It's been a while since I posted last, avoiding typing as usual bec. of severe arm pain.
I'm in Daly City to come see my Dad who's been asking when am I going to visit. I was going to take the bus but too much stress involved if I did. So I decided to ask my nephew to come pick me up. Again, never in my life did it cross my mind that I would be asking for rides in my 40's!! Driving is the biggest loss for me. I'm hoping that after surgery, I could drive.
I'm scheduled for an anterior cervical discectomy and fusion on Sept. 15, 2011 at The Chiari Institute in Long Island, New York. I'm really hoping that it will change my life to somewhat brighter and a little more fun than what it is now.
Right now everything I do using my hands and arms hurt so much, like my arms are separated from my body. The headaches are weird, feels like it is my brain that hurts, only on the left side. Pressure in the ear is annoying like drilling inside my ear. The pain around the root of my arms, shoulders, upper back, chest area makes me feel nauseated. The left side of my back gets more and more numb and hard and it feels like it has been getting higher almost to my shoulders and it feels really weird. It gets harder to walk each time I try. I still haven't been able to sit. Not sure if the surgery will do anything for this. Not to be negative but I know this is coming from my spinal cord and not from stenosis or kyphosis or whatsoever. But I guess we have to be optimistic and just hope that the surgery will help!
The last two months have been kind of miserable, spending more time in bed almost everyday. After breakfast it's back to bed time, after lunch it's back to bed time. Then if Dora doesn't make the dinner, I make easy dinner for us, scoot with the dog and then bedtime. I want to do a little more than that. I have been hiding from friends who have been inviting me to go out with them. It's hard to explain to them what I can't do because I look so normal.
Until next post, my eyes are dry and tired. I will sleep good tonight for sure.